Teen Chill - Take It or Leave It. :]

The future of the nation - that seems to be an adamant description seen mostly in poetic articles, news banners , advertisements and tabloids. But one thing is for certain -- it is pinpointing to the YOUTH. Belonging to this group, we too, are very much concerned of the hurdles that teenage life consists. It is not easy, knowing that you have to undergo these and that, or lets just say, there are things of youth that are seemingly easy but the truth is that, it is the hardest thing to do. That is why, being concerned and reverent with regards to the stages of teenage life, this blog is made to truly inform not only the *sons of our generation* but also to our descendants who were once called TEENAGERS. =]

TEEN CHiLL -- take it or leave it?
We'll sure you would want to answer that. :))

Stage of Confusion. :]

Being a teenager brings a fact of total doubt due to the fascinating new world that has entered. It means a lot of options to choose about in just one certain thing wherein he/she needs to know what is truly right from wrong. As young adults, teens prefer to believe in their own views and pretends to know everything even if they don't. Although, it enhances their character of self-reliance, this might still lead to confuse themselves from the conformed truth to their opinion where they depend on. They even try to protect the knowledge they have stored in mind and fight for it even if they're going the wrong way already. Almost every teen experienced this kind of mentality. But despite all of this, many try to understand both ways and correct themselves gradually.

Curiosity

Being a teenager is one of the most crucial periods of ones life. Adolescents, by definition are still maturing. In this stage, youngsters undergo changes in physical, mental, social, spiritual, and psychological. They experience various struggles of life. If not properly manage and solve, problems arise and even worse may happen.

One of the characteristics of a teenager is being curious. This is normal; boys and girls go through that curiosity phase. Curiosity booze out seeking for thrill, influence, relaxation and getting away from problems. They become more adventurous. They always look or even experiment on something they really don’t know. Nowadays, teens are very brave to try something new without thinking the consequences. Because of this, they get involve into vices, drugs, indecent fashion or even premarital sex. Some may behave like this just for popularity. Others are just because of influence. But most of them cannot escape from the situation. They become addicted and ruin their future. In just one try, it destroys what lies ahead for you.

Adolescents are prone to make decisions and actions without thinking the possible consequences. Responsibility of parents to provide counseling, give unconditional love and acceptance are very much needed in this period. Proper guidance and prayer from above may keep the teens from temptations.

Influence

Influence - youth nowadays could not deny that influence is blatantly aggressive.
" We are in the bloom of youth", as they say, meaning, we mostly think that whatever ideas that come from others are good. But how really?
We are only a pint compared to the multitude number of teenagers that inhibit globally. As a part of this clan, we too, should be aware of the things that come and may end.
Peer pressure -- that became a reality over us, because we are really "influenced"by the kind friends we are close associating with. What's funny and sad to note, is that, most of the things that we get from othes are seemingly good, but actually, is a demonstrator of something that wrecks something. I am talking about the trends- most especially the things that we do as leisure. Striking one, is about drug addiction. Using this for leisure is definitely no good. As we all know, we are being raised by our parents to get good education and later become good heads of our own families. Wouldn't it be disappointing on our parents' part if we would use our chances in in our own risk? I'm sure it definitely is.
We know that teenage years is a time of feeding ourselves with the things that'll prepare us towards our future.
Fortunately, it is not all the time that the word "influence" refer to bad stuffs.
With all hearts, we do, indeed hope that we would choose what's best for the many. :))

Peer Pressure

Peer pressure is usually one of those mentality that can lead a teen to be rebellious. Why? Well, let's just say being pressured means a lot of sadness and disappointment most of the time, especially if it means abrupt decision-making and often, it even doesn't go your way. That's a tough problem, right? Teens end up crying and carrying additional burdens since what they will do doesn't compliment their love at work. Some may even have nervous breakdown or even commit suicidal attempt.

Lovelife

To be in love and be loved is the sweetest thing in this humanity. What if it will happen to teens that are not mature enough to distinguish between love and intimacy? Would it succeed? Nowadays, most young people take the definition of love as what they want it to be. They have misconceptions of what is it. When they feel something unusual to its opposite sex, one is make believe that he/she is actually in love. But often times, it is not love at all. It might be a temporary feeling and will soon wear off. Not every teen that get into a relationship is looking for love. Some are those who only want sex, money or perhaps status. Teens get trap for what they think is love. So, more teenage relationships fail because of the obvious reason: lack of maturity and not knowing what true love is. It is all right for teens to have a relationship on this stage. But they should know their responsibilities as well as its limitations. The person should control his feelings. Not the feelings control the person. It is just accepting the fact that it involves a lot of thinking. Real love can wait. True love respects and honor. Genuine love lifts each other completely in their dreams. Prayers and parents advice is badly needed for teens to control their feelings. These will lead to face the truth which is reality. It is better to graduate first, have a job, then enter in a relationship and finally get happily settled. Every sacrifice is worth it. Good future waits for teens like this.

Teenage Pregnancy

Young people get involve to premarital sex. One tries out what it feels to be truly in love by merely sexual contact. Yes, God created our sexual desire. Thus, there is no reason to use it blindly. Indeed, it should be used, but in its proper time and place So, God intended sex for marriage couple.

Teenage pregnancy is considered a huge problem not only in our country but world wide. Statistics shows the main reason of teenage pregnancy is poverty, lack of guidance and out of curiosity. It increases the population rapidly, unemployment and so forth. Teens undergoing in this problem facing consequences not only emotional, mental but also physical risks on the life of the mother as it is to the child Early moms are prone of reproductive diseases since their organs are not mature enough to bear a child. Aside from that, adolescent mother experience emotional distress due to longing for acceptance, decision making and infant’s cognitive. The mother shows less closeness to the baby. Most likely. Adolescent father will force to work due to the big responsibility waits for them. Teenage parents experience anger and frustration for the unfulfilled dreams. Likewise, most of teenage marriages fail. Maybe, because of lack of responsibility, involvement, and commitment. Adolescent mother needs more information about child care and child development. Even how hard it, people around her is should give encouragement to pursue her life. The girl often takes the responsibility of the child. Yes, it is a mistake. But don’t ever think to abort the child. It is still a blessing.

Social Life :]

As teenagers, we most likely want to be with our friends most of the time. It's mainly because we want to have someone whom we can talk to with friends in our age, we usually understand each other easier than with elders or younger ones, especially with our bestfriends, whom we can tell just anything under the sun. But for some people, being in a crowd doesn't give them bliss, instead, they feel intimidated by others due to certain differences. Each and every one of us has diverse personalities and clearly, it only means that one can not please everyone or they are just playing hard-to-get. That's one uneasy thing about getting into social life during teenage years.

School Life :))

Teenagers, children, and even adults all need someone their own age to share common experiences with. As a teenager, another teenager is going through many of the same experiences. If something is happening in the teenager's life, sometimes they need someone their own age to confide in. Also, when they need to be away from home, at college, in a job, or whatever, they need to be able to rely on the people who are around them, which would most likely be their peers. Strong relationships are important to all people, and although strong relationships can and should develop with people older and younger than us (that is why the world is full of all ages of people, not just one age only), the fact is that we do need to have strong relationships with those of our own age, too. Teenagers are at an age where they are trying to develop their own sense of identity. Sometimes a teen may feel more comfortable in the school setting with these learning expereinces and changes, as well as the activities offered are more condusive to this. (and of course this is where teenagers have to excercise the most judgement). Teenagers are trying to see where they fit in, for opinions, career goals, which they will be. They are expanding their horizons and may be a little difficult to do this in the same home environment that they have been used to for many years. Due to the fact that teens will in the near future need to be more independent and finally make a way for themselves on their own, they are learning to do things away from their familiar surroundings, and make decisions on their own. Going to college or moving when they are a little older is a great change. Perhaps distancing is experienced incrementally, as more time spent at school or with friends, and then growing to the more difficult time actually away from family for longer periods. For the most part, teens are just "social beings", and without the interchange with other teens, the social development that normally occurs, might tend to suffer. Teens are attempting to find a life-mate and you cannot do this very well if you do not have contact with other people. Decision-making abilities develop when you have the opportunity to experience things that require this. It is a trial and error experience that must be developed and also requires the confidence from making some decisions of your own.

Experiences/Suggestions :))

EXPERiENCES :))

Every teenager will experience this kind of problem and personally, I, as a matured teenager, had encountered and knew what it's like being in the situation. A lot of times, I've been given trials by Him if I could surpass and survive. For instance, when my parents wouldn't allow me to go somewhere after a school activity, I usually get a bit disappointed and tell myself to be rebellious and stick to my stand and ask, "Why wouldn't they trust me?", "Am I not that matured yet?". And so, i frown and doubt. on the other hand, my parents have more valid reasons. Ofcourse they have trust in me but not on some situations because as what they say, "anything can happen, anytime" and I know they just want to protect me and challenged myself to be a disciplined person.
-- anjola, 16, dvo
I may not have big problems about this but I know one good situation-choosing of courses during college. Some parents try to control their decisions in selecting fields of experty rather than the courses the student really wanted to take up. This won't make him a succesful person someday because he doesn't put his heart at it. Though some may succed, he doesn't make himself worth-it because he isn't happy on what he's doing, he was just forced.
-- sophia, 15, dvo
In school, there are a lot of people whom we do not really know because as what I just said, not all are pleased by the effort you're making. I know because I've experienced that, too. Even though I've tried to really befriend with that person because in a way I like her, she even didn't even smile at me when I noticed her looking at me earlier and even at the most obvious situations. She even snobs at me and doesn't talk to me. And no matter how great my effort was in keeping in touch at her, she just ignores me like I have something I owe to her. Plus, she even backstabbed me a lot just to destroy the graces I've showed.
-- joanna, 16, dvo

SUGGESTiONS =]

Thus, i suggest that we, teens, must be open-minded on every possible ideas and consider things in both ways so we could compare which is better if not, the best answer in our uncertainties. Let us alwaays think that we are given family and friends to guide and advice us in times of need since we are not that matured yet even if we think that we already are. Lastly, we should follow every command our parents would tell us because what they say to us are things that could make us better persons when things mess up and we do not understand anything. And as they always say, "Parents know best."

-- michelle, 18, dvo

I also have experienced minor problems that went under pressure. And as a matured-thinker, I may get disappointed but i did understand what elders usually say and advice me. I realized that not all my decisions can come up to good results and I eventually learned how to love what they want me to be, to do and have.
-- lourie, 15, dvo

As a teen, I know how it feels like to be an outcast at times and be backstabbed. And so, as what I usually do, I want to suggest that you shouldn't give much attention to what others say because it only lets you feel disappointed and helpless- it doesn't give any happiness. You just have to say everything you wanted to towards that person and him to you so that each of you can understand one's views. But if incase there's no improvement in the situation, just mind your business and ignore them, but with a forgiving heart. Because in the end, the heart that easily forgives and forgets is the one who will receive more awards up there with Him.
-- iriza, 15, dvo

We'll Take It :))

Teen's life isn't really easy. As what we are experiencing right now, we would conclude that life truly begins at teenage life. Building of principles -- it is the very point of being an adolescent wherein all the challenges in life come and end, and all the maturities are dumped behind.
Proudly, we devout ourselves to be teenagers. Because here, we found the relevance of each other and friendship clinged unto us. What's best, we found here the essence of being an individual, that we have to make the best out of life. Though sometimes, our parents become aggresive in giving us their expectations, we happily beat all the odds and fling all the hardships away. Although there are some who mistakenly think that we don't have any problems in life, we would say that they actually "assasinate our character".
No matter what are the obstacles that come through, we make it to the point that gaiety will be our primary concern. Behind all the smiles we give, there are diverse personalities with different dispositions in life. Things come imperfectly, to the point that some have use their youth days into disgrace. But though, we believe that those are just part of the wheel of life - today you have all the madness in this world, but maybe tomorrow will be your day.

Indeed, teenagers are really fighting for the fancy distance that life could offer. ;))

Spiritual Life :))

Christians around the world celebrate the miracle of Christ's birth with Midnight Mass, one of the most sacred and beautiful services of the year. But some parents are disappointed when their teenagers fail to appreciate this cherished religious ritual. After all, wouldn't a 14-year-old boy rather be home with his Play Station than in church singing "Alleluia?"
Teenagers of today’s generation are more likely focused on other things than praising God. They prefer to stay home to watch TV, doing assignments and play computer games. Some people say that “Adolescence has always been a heightened spiritual phase in the life cycle”. As we grow older, we encounter problems and only God will provide us the strength that we need. As long as we have a strong faith to Him, he will not let us go into trouble for He will guide us in right direction.
On the other hand, teens raised as churchgoers are more likely to look forward to this annual tradition. These teenagers have a great fear to God. In spite of their busy schedule they still go to church to pray not just for themselves but also to people whom they love. They forgive easily and very honest.